In The Power that’s Ours Magic asks Jina what her interpretation of a goal is. Her response is,”when a football player kicks a soccer ball into the net.”
That, for some, is the obvious choice. But the other option is goals that are related to us on a more personal level.
Knowingly or unknowingly we all set goals constantly. It might be a daily “to do” list which could include;
- picking up the kids from school,
- getting the shopping done,
- cleaning out the garden shed, or
- catching the “final” of the game we recorded on TV.
or the “big” life altering goals like;
- starting a new business,
- buying a house,
- a planned overseas vacation or
- losing a bit of weight.
This post is not about reaching the destination or the feeling we experience when we achieve a goal but rather why pursuing goals is important, the journey, and it’s benefits.When we set goals – whether big or small – and actively pursue them, we learn about ourselves along the way. We get to understand;
- our strengths,
- our weaknesses and
- all the in-betweens.
If we take notice of this we will get a clearer understanding of how we operate, when we’re most productive, and why it’s OK to step back.
From my journey of independently publishing my first book – (a really big goal I set after my publisher went out of business) I learnt the following about myself;
- I need a cup of coffee in the morning. (Yip I’m addicted)
- I need to be at my desk and operating by 9am (A bit OCD that way)
- The majority of my work; writing and marketing, gets done between 9am and lunch time. (1pm)
- I need to work in silence, no background music, TV or podcasts.
- I try to set up meetings for the afternoon – away from my computer.
- I don’t have many breaks, if any, during the morning – as that’s when I’m really focused and motivated.
- Initially I wasn’t good at saying “no” so would always take up the offer of meeting a friend for coffee. This is now gauged on an individual basis – depending on timelines etc.
- I can follow a daily “to do” list – but not great at planning a weekly list.
- Initially I was quite negatively effected by a setback or a negative response – this I would allow to effect the rest of my day. (This changed over time)
- I can’t eat a heavy lunch if I want to continue in the afternoon. Soups or salads work best for me.
- My afternoon is spent, reading, researching and surfing the net – with no writing. It includes lots of breaks.
- Around 3pm I’m done – no more! (Initially I had a problem with this and tried to persevere – only to have to redo the work)
- In the afternoon I need to exercise outdoors to clear my head – best is walking, swimming. I’m not a good morning exerciser.
- After dinner I can check emails and plan the next day – for about an hour.
- After dark my energy depletes quickly.
The above is a list about what I learnt about myself. But our goals should be unique to us as individuals; just as the way we pursue them should be. Advice can be given and taken on board but ultimately our path of pursuing goals which can lead to a better self- understanding is as important as reaching the destination.